I’ve dealt with a lot of rejection.
Whether it’s in my professional life, my personal life, or just life in general. As a result, over time I needed to build up means of dealing with it, otherwise, it would prove to be detrimental to my mental health.
Professional
I’ve dealt with rejection in the app cycle, whether it was jobs straight up ghosting me altogether, or just giving me a generic statement thanking me for applying, but deciding to go with another candidate. It hits you, and then after a while you sort of become numb to it once you cycle through the app cycle.
While that is the case, it takes a toll on my ego, sometimes, but at the end of the day realize that maybe you weren’t a fit and that’s perfectly okay! I would advise for people who got rejected to reach out to the recruiters and see if they could provide some feedback as to the overall interview. It will be sure to soften the blow to your ego, but also provide a way to improve yourself for future interviews.
Personal
I’ve dealt with rejections in friendships and relationships, and certainly it’s able to negatively affect you if you let it. Having said that, I recommend finding some positive coping mechanisms, or practicing hobbies to let you get your mind off of rejections. Do stuff that you enjoy, or just some outlet that you can channel the possible frustrations of your rejection into.
An example would be say…you’re angry or upset over something. The stereotypical one would be using your anger and frustration and punching a pillow. While I wouldn’t say a pillow, I’d say that pent up energy could definitely be used towards exercise, working out, or some other means of self-development. I find if you are able to put your mind into doing that that it’ll be great.
Another method that I find rather useful is keeping a journal and being able to vent your feelings or frustrations out on it. You’re able to pour out your feelings to your heart’s content, and then decide to stash it away somewhere safe. It allows you to recap events and just get your feelings out in a safe space.
Overall
Having said all that, realize that tomorrow is another day to start fresh and have a go at things. Don’t be intimidated by your failures, rather take them on as learning experiences. Couple that with positive coping mechanisms, and a supportive group of peers, and you should be alright.
